My husband and I have been married for three years. I knew before we were married that he had struggled with pornography. A few instances arose over the first two year. But here recently it has gotten really bad. I feel as if he is being unfaithful, and receiving his need for sexual fulfillment without me. I give him sex at least 5-6 times a week but it is still happening. Last night after I went to bed he logged onto a sight and didn't come to bed until 2:30a.m. Then he santed to please me but in a very rare change he did not want anything in return. He didn't tell me what he had done. But I found all the evidence. HELP! I am HURTING!

I have no pearls of wisdom. <P>However, I had a husband who fit the guidelines of having a sexual addiction. I spent 18 months as a member of an S-Anon family group. It is a 12-step program for people who have family members with sexual addiction manifested in any of a number of ways. And addiction to pornography is one of them. This group is very much like Al-Anon. <P>Their international office telephone number is 615-833-3152. They can give you the information about the closest group to you. You may try their web site at <A HREF="http://www.sanon.org/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.sanon.org/</A> or something like that. I know it's <A HREF="http://www.sanon.org" TARGET=_blank>www.sanon.org</A>

Thank You so much. My husband is really wanting help, but we haven't know where to get it.

I do hope that they will be able to help. There is also, I believe, a group that goes by the initials SLAA which stand for Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. I can not help you further on that group, however. But it is a good sign that he wants help, also.<P>Another source for information in your area would be a counseling center. Possibly one with multiple counselors might be a good place to call. I know there are group practices. I've never used one however. My thought is that they might have a wider group of outside resources for referral purposes.<P>May God bless both of you.