This is the first time I have posted here, my H has just moved out and our two teenage boys are devasted. H is living with OW. They are very upset and don't want to have anything to do with him. I'm not saying anything bad about H, only that I want him to get over this and come home, that I still love him. Are there any good web sites or books that I can read to help them through this? Any ideas are really appreciated.<P>

#1 What your sons are feeling is normal.<P>#2 Borrow books from the library on infidelity. Each of them seems to have a section on children and infidelity.<P>#3 Post on the infidelity board. There are many others who can probably help with advice on your marriage and your sons.<P>#4 Read Surviving an Affair, Private Lies, and After the Affair.<P>#5 Read everything you can on this site starting with Basic Concepts