children making the intervention - 11/19/07 03:13 AM
I'm an older child who just found out that my father is having an affair. Last week, I found an email on his blackberry from another woman. My mother was in the room when I discovered it, and she immediately confronted my dad. He got really defensive and told her that it was from a hostess at a bar he was at the night before and that he didn't know how she got his email address. My mother yelled at him and kind of let it go with just a slap on his wrist.
Two days ago, my younger sister woke me up at 3am crying and shaking saying that she thinks "daddy is having an affair." She said she found passionate emails on his phone and that she couldn't understand why this was happening. We ended up forwarding those emails to her account and printing them out. The emails are obviously from the woman he claimed to have nothing to do with last week when my mom confronted him. They're mostly pg rated and fall along the lines of love notes. But one of them clearly states that they had been on a few dates and that they may be planning a "mini-vacation."
Now. My dilemma. Should I tell my mother? Should I confront him first? I understand that he's going through a mid-life crisis. But this is just wrong. My younger sister is devastated. She hasn't been able to act the same around my father ever since she found out. She was always daddy's little girl. I've been consoling her every night as she cries herself to sleep.
I'm soo tired mentally and physically from dealing with the stress of this situation and my own problems. I really need help.
Two days ago, my younger sister woke me up at 3am crying and shaking saying that she thinks "daddy is having an affair." She said she found passionate emails on his phone and that she couldn't understand why this was happening. We ended up forwarding those emails to her account and printing them out. The emails are obviously from the woman he claimed to have nothing to do with last week when my mom confronted him. They're mostly pg rated and fall along the lines of love notes. But one of them clearly states that they had been on a few dates and that they may be planning a "mini-vacation."
Now. My dilemma. Should I tell my mother? Should I confront him first? I understand that he's going through a mid-life crisis. But this is just wrong. My younger sister is devastated. She hasn't been able to act the same around my father ever since she found out. She was always daddy's little girl. I've been consoling her every night as she cries herself to sleep.
I'm soo tired mentally and physically from dealing with the stress of this situation and my own problems. I really need help.