Thanks for the replies. It is extremely frustrating because my exwife is over it and has a boyfriend etc. We got married in March of this year, she cheated and left me in November. I think it is more frustrating because I am in another country and there isn't much I can do from here.
Here is his original post from the Infidelity forum dated 10/23/07
please bare with me for this, I really would appreciate any help.
My wife and I are both 22 years old we got married in May 07, we had only known each other for 2 months prior to that. We got married so soon because we both felt a very real connection with each other, we figured that must be the thing called love. We are both in the military and when we met I already was on my way to Korea in a few months. I put off going to Korea as long as possible and I left about 2 months after we got married. My wife convinced me she felt the same way, and always will. We made plans on when we want to have children and she told me so many times that she is going to have my children and she will never leave me or cheat.
My wife and I had an amazing relationship, I have never loved any woman the way I love her. However last week, a few months after I had to leave her, she tells me on the telephone that she met a guy at a bar and went home with him, had a one night stand. I have forgiven her and she knows that I have however she is acting different when I call. When I ask her what she is doing to come to Korea to join me she does not answer.
Before she told me about her one night stand she was making efforts every day to get sent to Korea to be with me. I ask her about this and she says she just needs to figure things out...this concerns me greatly because if she does not get sent to Korea soon she will be sent to Iraq for 15 months. I feel the only way I can make this marriage work is if I am together with my wife very soon.
Can anyone give me any advice?? I really cannot handle the thought of my wife leaving me. I thank you in advance!!!
James it wouldn't be emotionally healthy for you to get into a rebound relationship. As hard as it will be to do....you need to focus on your career and heal yourself before you think of dating anyone.
Best Wishes