Am I ready for this? - 01/09/11 09:57 PM
Wow, I never thought I would be writing this. My earlier story is summarised below. I worked with MB for two years to save our marriage before coming to terms with the fact that it could never be repaired because he saw any kind of honesty as too controlling. Still, I kept hoping until that he would want to stay married enough to start telling the truth.
In 2009 I filed for divorce. At the beginning of 2010 I was finally allowed to move out (he is a very controlling person) but the divorce is not yet final as he keeps playing delaying games. We are now at the point where the judge has had enough and has given him a short deadline.
It has now been five years since discovery.
About a year ago, a lovely man put an arm around me. It was just a friendly gesture in a very public place but I felt 15 years old again and was totally swept off my feet by it. He was newly widowed and indirectly asked me out but I was not ready and declined him.
Three months ago I finally felt ready to start dating. I'm 58. My children are grown up. It was time to see whether sharing my life with a new man could work before I had settled completely into my newly contented single state.
I posted on Match.com and was snowed under with responses. After some careful weeding I had my first date in 30 years which was fine, chatted to lots, met with several who were also fine, was set up with someone by a mutual friend who was more than just fine and then suddenly got hit over the head by a 2x4.
2x4 and I have been seeing one another for about 6 weeks and it is very intense. I've said no SF till the divorce is final, he's cool about that. I'm worried that this is a rebound, he thinks that is a risk and is cool about that too.
I've read the other posts in here and so agree that the knowledge of MB concepts is an incredibly powerful and potentially quite dangerous weapon.
I'm following all your stories, learning lots, making no commitments, no plans further out than a month whilst thanking God for giving me this great gift.
In 2009 I filed for divorce. At the beginning of 2010 I was finally allowed to move out (he is a very controlling person) but the divorce is not yet final as he keeps playing delaying games. We are now at the point where the judge has had enough and has given him a short deadline.
It has now been five years since discovery.
About a year ago, a lovely man put an arm around me. It was just a friendly gesture in a very public place but I felt 15 years old again and was totally swept off my feet by it. He was newly widowed and indirectly asked me out but I was not ready and declined him.
Three months ago I finally felt ready to start dating. I'm 58. My children are grown up. It was time to see whether sharing my life with a new man could work before I had settled completely into my newly contented single state.
I posted on Match.com and was snowed under with responses. After some careful weeding I had my first date in 30 years which was fine, chatted to lots, met with several who were also fine, was set up with someone by a mutual friend who was more than just fine and then suddenly got hit over the head by a 2x4.
2x4 and I have been seeing one another for about 6 weeks and it is very intense. I've said no SF till the divorce is final, he's cool about that. I'm worried that this is a rebound, he thinks that is a risk and is cool about that too.
I've read the other posts in here and so agree that the knowledge of MB concepts is an incredibly powerful and potentially quite dangerous weapon.
I'm following all your stories, learning lots, making no commitments, no plans further out than a month whilst thanking God for giving me this great gift.