Engaged with life altering event - 10/21/13 03:43 AM
Brief history
48 yr old female dating 50 yr old male for 8 years, engaged for 4 years. Not a first marriage for either of us.
Bf recently diagnosed with terminal illness. (Probably a few years (up to 5) to live with treatments, but will likely suffer bad side effects from treatments during this time.)
Both of us devastated.
Problem - Our wedding was to occur in January, but now has been cancelled and moved to back burner. Bf doesn't express desire to discuss it or pick any new wedding date.
I am frustrated because I want to be able to help him during this time to ease anything that I can but we do not live together and it is not an option without marriage.
I guess I have to accept the fact that we cannot be together and give him the moral support the best I can from a distance. It would just be so much better for all if we were together.
I am just so lost....
48 yr old female dating 50 yr old male for 8 years, engaged for 4 years. Not a first marriage for either of us.
Bf recently diagnosed with terminal illness. (Probably a few years (up to 5) to live with treatments, but will likely suffer bad side effects from treatments during this time.)
Both of us devastated.
Problem - Our wedding was to occur in January, but now has been cancelled and moved to back burner. Bf doesn't express desire to discuss it or pick any new wedding date.
I am frustrated because I want to be able to help him during this time to ease anything that I can but we do not live together and it is not an option without marriage.
I guess I have to accept the fact that we cannot be together and give him the moral support the best I can from a distance. It would just be so much better for all if we were together.
I am just so lost....