Hello everyone- what to do when SO changes rules - 03/12/17 12:25 AM
Hello,
I have read the entire MB site and LB and HNHN. Long story short SO wasn't ready to let go of an imappropriate relationship with his ex.
In December, the ex texted me screenshots of all their communications in hopes that I'd call it quits and leave him.
Since then, I've been jealous and anxious and insecure. He agreed to do Love Bank and our most important needs ... but now that it has been months he literally doesn't do them anymore.
We wrote up a plan ... "in the morning he wil... " and "afte work he will..." and now he is saying that the "plan" is not a contract so he can take it or leave it as he wants.
I will admit to being very angry with him at times. I will get triggered and pick a fight over it.
It all comes down to, I don't feel loved by him anymore.
The messages between him and the other lady... were adorable and flirty and sexual... the only thing he says to me is "how is your day?' and I am lucky to even get that.
Last night I literally cried to him and BEGGED him to say a "love word" to me.
He literally refused... he flat out watched me hurt and wouldn't say 1 nice word to me all night... he DID make every excuse in the book about why he wasn't going to do that. Mainly that he isn't a puppet.
How to proceed?
I have read the entire MB site and LB and HNHN. Long story short SO wasn't ready to let go of an imappropriate relationship with his ex.
In December, the ex texted me screenshots of all their communications in hopes that I'd call it quits and leave him.
Since then, I've been jealous and anxious and insecure. He agreed to do Love Bank and our most important needs ... but now that it has been months he literally doesn't do them anymore.
We wrote up a plan ... "in the morning he wil... " and "afte work he will..." and now he is saying that the "plan" is not a contract so he can take it or leave it as he wants.
I will admit to being very angry with him at times. I will get triggered and pick a fight over it.
It all comes down to, I don't feel loved by him anymore.
The messages between him and the other lady... were adorable and flirty and sexual... the only thing he says to me is "how is your day?' and I am lucky to even get that.
Last night I literally cried to him and BEGGED him to say a "love word" to me.
He literally refused... he flat out watched me hurt and wouldn't say 1 nice word to me all night... he DID make every excuse in the book about why he wasn't going to do that. Mainly that he isn't a puppet.
How to proceed?