To continue dating or not - 12/08/17 01:28 AM
I was referred to this site by a good friend. Am looking for some advice about a current relationship I am in. I have been dating a guy for 1.5 years. We read His Needs/Her Needs together at the start of our relationship, so am somewhat familiar with some of Dr Harleys ideas and teachings. Our relationship was pretty solid for the first year and 3 months, even though I have always felt that there was something mysterious/hidden. However, we both believe in transparency and have always let each other look through phone/texts/calls/emails at any time. Although, he has never looked through mine. I have looked through his probably 6 times or so in our entire relationship. Never found anything until recently. Under his google chrome search I found that he had been searching POF, a porn site and craigslist classifieds. He had all sorts of excuses for his searches i.e. he was searching for his coworkers ex who filed a restraining order on him, he was "bored and curious" etc. I jumped to the conclusion that he was hooking up with people. He adamantly denies ever cheating on me. I believe he never had physical or any interactions with anyone else. Yet I can't get over the fact that he was looking. I feel betrayed. He claims I am his dream girl and he is perfectly happy with us. That same night, he made a most hurtful comment about my ex husbands life insurance. He is so remorseful of all of it. It just doesn't add up in my head. We are going to a christian couselor who believes his past abuse is the root of his relationship issues. I can't decide if I should invest the time and energy into the relationship. If I will ever be able to trust him or if he will ever be able to be in a healthy relationship. Open to any ideas.