I love this part:
"Does your girlfriend make you angry."
"Yes."
"Now, that's a trick question."
What a difference I saw in my life when I quit blaming others for my crappy feelings!
I had a LONG list of people who used to "make me mad". I had another list for people who "upset me."
I still have to "play" a game w/ myself to help keep me centered. When ever I think someone has made me mad or sad...I stop. And say to myself, "I'm mad b/c I want to be." or "I'm upset b/c I want to be."
I own whatever I'm feeling and then I can't give myself permission to punish anyone else for them.
Oh, and I also own my positive feelings. Only waywards or wayward thinking people think someone else makes them happy. If I'm happy it's b/c I want to be.
@ At Mel, thanks for the thread and the links! Dr. Harley rocks!