Shaken confidence, talk of separation - 03/13/12 03:09 PM
This weekend I told my H that I was contemplating separation. This happened over an incident that has really left my confidence in him shaken.
Basically, my H really doesn't believe in the concept of UA time and it is an ongoing battle. He believes that playing video games in the same room as me (doing homework, with the baby, etc) is enough. We have gone from 15 hours to maybe 1, at best.
So, how this relates to what happened? Our boy (1) was getting sicker and sicker this weekend, and Saturday I said we need to go to a doctor, he refused (we live somewhere that I don't speak the language and I needed him). Sunday, he was exceptionally worse and I told him we MUST go to the hospital. My H yelled, screamed, said I was "wasting his days off" with this nonsense (he had the week off prior), and I had to BEG him to come with me to the hospital (again,language barrier). He wanted to sit and play his damn video game instead.
Within 5 minutes of being at the hospital, our son was on oxygen and steroids, seriously ill. His throat was closing. I should have called an ambulance.
I just can't get over what happened. I always thought of him as the protector and a good father. I told him I was thinking of separating, that he was not the man I married and he was not the father he was a year ago.
I feel like this video game (he is 33, I am 27) thing has gone too far. It is like he would rather just do that and have me & our boy live our lives beside him.
He has changed since Sunday (bearing in mind it's only Tuesday), I don't think he realized how bad his life has gotten.
I really need some help with this. I am 3 months pregnant and this is the last thing I want to happen to my family, I love him so much but I feel like the OW is the TV/computer.
Basically, my H really doesn't believe in the concept of UA time and it is an ongoing battle. He believes that playing video games in the same room as me (doing homework, with the baby, etc) is enough. We have gone from 15 hours to maybe 1, at best.
So, how this relates to what happened? Our boy (1) was getting sicker and sicker this weekend, and Saturday I said we need to go to a doctor, he refused (we live somewhere that I don't speak the language and I needed him). Sunday, he was exceptionally worse and I told him we MUST go to the hospital. My H yelled, screamed, said I was "wasting his days off" with this nonsense (he had the week off prior), and I had to BEG him to come with me to the hospital (again,language barrier). He wanted to sit and play his damn video game instead.
Within 5 minutes of being at the hospital, our son was on oxygen and steroids, seriously ill. His throat was closing. I should have called an ambulance.
I just can't get over what happened. I always thought of him as the protector and a good father. I told him I was thinking of separating, that he was not the man I married and he was not the father he was a year ago.
I feel like this video game (he is 33, I am 27) thing has gone too far. It is like he would rather just do that and have me & our boy live our lives beside him.
He has changed since Sunday (bearing in mind it's only Tuesday), I don't think he realized how bad his life has gotten.
I really need some help with this. I am 3 months pregnant and this is the last thing I want to happen to my family, I love him so much but I feel like the OW is the TV/computer.