Too Much To Ask? - 04/28/16 11:53 PM
Hello everyone. I've been married 30 years. We have three children. One is ready to graduate college, the other from high school and our youngest is special needs. . on the autistic spectrum. He's now 15. I work very hard, two jobs, to earn about $150,000 a year. Incredibly, with bills and spending we don't feel wealthy. I think we live comfortably and a good amount goes to retirement for us and setting up funds for our son for his future. I also don't ask my wife for any money for any bills. I ask her to work for her mad money. A constant source of our worsening fights is she wants, to my guess, about $30,000 to $50,000 for home redecorating . . .I don't have it. She also wants to stop working. She says, as a woman. She shouldn't have to work. In essence I'm told, by her, a REAL man makes enough for his wife to re-decorate and to be at home. As the fights start every word she screams at me seems to say " You're a failure. You may think you work hard, or that you're a good provider, but you're not!! You're a failure! " It hurts so much to hear this and it's happening more and more often. Any thoughts from any of you on how to steel my soul. . .my heart. . from these attacks? Thanks so much.