Conflict resolution/avoidance - 09/08/16 10:19 PM
Hello all!
I'm looking for help to resolve a particular issue. I have, over the years, been able to voice complaints when I am not happy when my husband does something. I don't find it necessary to do so often, but When I do, the following usually happens.
For example, I told my DH that it bothered me because he did such and such. He responded defensively and in a high pitched voice ( I hope you all can imagine the tone I'm talking about) I told him not to use that tone and he proceeded arguing about his tone. I pointed it out to him and response was a sarcastic remark and walked out of the room.
For the next two hours before bedtime, he gave me the silent treatment and went to bed without saying good night.
Now, I'm still upset for the first thing that bothered me to begin with as well as his reaction. However, he will act like nothing ever happened. I usually withdraw and get over it in time but I know that that isn't healthy for me to do.
So to the point, what should I do?? Should I bring up the original topic again until he agrees to address it? Or not, since I already voiced it?
BTW, the original complaint was an angry outburst directed at the children.
I'm looking for help to resolve a particular issue. I have, over the years, been able to voice complaints when I am not happy when my husband does something. I don't find it necessary to do so often, but When I do, the following usually happens.
For example, I told my DH that it bothered me because he did such and such. He responded defensively and in a high pitched voice ( I hope you all can imagine the tone I'm talking about) I told him not to use that tone and he proceeded arguing about his tone. I pointed it out to him and response was a sarcastic remark and walked out of the room.
For the next two hours before bedtime, he gave me the silent treatment and went to bed without saying good night.
Now, I'm still upset for the first thing that bothered me to begin with as well as his reaction. However, he will act like nothing ever happened. I usually withdraw and get over it in time but I know that that isn't healthy for me to do.
So to the point, what should I do?? Should I bring up the original topic again until he agrees to address it? Or not, since I already voiced it?
BTW, the original complaint was an angry outburst directed at the children.