Don't know how to proceed - 06/20/18 09:36 PM
My husband and I have had little disagreements over the last couple of years were we don't 'talk' to each other for about a week but then it blows over and we go back to normal. Two weeks ago during the most recent one I addressed my husband about it and he said he needs to leave because he can't change and doesn't want to hurt our kids anymore. He is former military for 23 years so a lot of our stress is from his lack of patience with us 'civilians.' I have not been the wife I should have been either though. He agreed to try until the end of the month since I begged him. After a few days or week I realized that he wasn't putting much effort into it and was still really distant. I found he has been calling and texting with another woman but I have no proof other than the phone bill (she lives out of state). I was following some of Dr. Harley's tactics along with Gary Chapman's Four Seasons of Marriage, Love Languages and also the book Power of a Prayerful Wife.
I am confused as to what to do now. I can't really confront him without any proof. But I am dying trying to be this wonderful wife when he is only intermittently responding. Would telling his family about his need to divorce work to bring him out of the fog? Or should I just keep snooping? He has changed his password for his computer and phone so I don't know how I will get proof.
More info available, but I just needed to get this out there for some advise.
I am confused as to what to do now. I can't really confront him without any proof. But I am dying trying to be this wonderful wife when he is only intermittently responding. Would telling his family about his need to divorce work to bring him out of the fog? Or should I just keep snooping? He has changed his password for his computer and phone so I don't know how I will get proof.
More info available, but I just needed to get this out there for some advise.