Should my daughter visit her mom in jail? - Marriage Builders® Forums

Would allowing my 15-year-old daughter to visit her mom who will be in jail for 7 months for check fraud be a bad idea even if they have a good relationship since then she will see the inside of a jail and prisoners? Not to mention her mom in a jumpsuit. My daughter would like to go and seems enthusiastic and my wife says bring her if she wants but I’m not sure

Actually my daughter does not seem scared but instead seems excited and enthusiastic to visit. This is strange to me. Do you find this normal? My daughter seems to find the idea of her mom having to wearing a uniform, sharing a room funny. I wonder why she would think it is funny. My wife says bring her if she would like to and my daughter says she would like to but I don't know if it is a good idea. She hasn't gone yet so we can still discuss it together.

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It would be a good idea for your daughter to visit her mother in jail. It doesn't matter if she thinks some things about jail are amusing; she will see the reality of what happens to someone who breaks the law and offends against society. It would be good for her to go.

What about seeing other inmates and them in jumpsuits? Not to mention she will likely ask her mom what’s it’s like in jail. Don’t know if a 15 year old should know what it’s like to be in a cell and take a shower with other inmates

Originally Posted by I3700

What about seeing other inmates and them in jumpsuits? Not to mention she will likely ask her mom what’s it’s like in jail. Don’t know if a 15 year old should know what it’s like to be in a cell and take a shower with other inmates

Did you email Dr. Harley?

Originally Posted by I3700

What about seeing other inmates and them in jumpsuits? Not to mention she will likely ask her mom what’s it’s like in jail. Don’t know if a 15 year old should know what it’s like to be in a cell and take a shower with other inmates

How will seeing other inmates in jumpsuits be a bad thing?

What is wrong with her asking her other what it's like to be in jail? And why shouldn't a 15 year-old know what it's like to be in a cell? She would learn that it isn't fun, and that being deprived of liberty is something to be avoided. She would learn that committing crimes against society is terrible, and that there is punishment which is severe.

It's not as if she would see the showers or the cells. She would visit her mother in a visiting area.

I'm really not sure what you're getting at here.

Originally Posted by SugarCane

Originally Posted by I3700

What about seeing other inmates and them in jumpsuits? Not to mention she will likely ask her mom what’s it’s like in jail. Don’t know if a 15 year old should know what it’s like to be in a cell and take a shower with other inmates

How will seeing other inmates in jumpsuits be a bad thing?

What is wrong with her asking her other what it's like to be in jail? And why shouldn't a 15 year-old know what it's like to be in a cell? She would learn that it isn't fun, and that being deprived of liberty is something to be avoided. She would learn that committing crimes against society is terrible, and that there is punishment which is severe.

It's not as if she would see the showers or the cells. She would visit her mother in a visiting area.

I'm really not sure what you're getting at here.

I agree with SugarCane. This is an excellent teachable moment for your DD15.

Originally Posted by SugarCane

Originally Posted by I3700

What about seeing other inmates and them in jumpsuits? Not to mention she will likely ask her mom what’s it’s like in jail. Don’t know if a 15 year old should know what it’s like to be in a cell and take a shower with other inmates

How will seeing other inmates in jumpsuits be a bad thing?

What is wrong with her asking her other what it's like to be in jail? And why shouldn't a 15 year-old know what it's like to be in a cell? She would learn that it isn't fun, and that being deprived of liberty is something to be avoided. She would learn that committing crimes against society is terrible, and that there is punishment which is severe.

It's not as if she would see the showers or the cells. She would visit her mother in a visiting area.

I'm really not sure what you're getting at here.

Originally Posted by SugarCane

Originally Posted by I3700

What about seeing other inmates and them in jumpsuits? Not to mention she will likely ask her mom what’s it’s like in jail. Don’t know if a 15 year old should know what it’s like to be in a cell and take a shower with other inmates

How will seeing other inmates in jumpsuits be a bad thing?

What is wrong with her asking her other what it's like to be in jail? And why shouldn't a 15 year-old know what it's like to be in a cell? She would learn that it isn't fun, and that being deprived of liberty is something to be avoided. She would learn that committing crimes against society is terrible, and that there is punishment which is severe.

It's not as if she would see the showers or the cells. She would visit her mother in a visiting area.

I'm really not sure what you're getting at here.

Originally Posted by SugarCane

Originally Posted by I3700

What about seeing other inmates and them in jumpsuits? Not to mention she will likely ask her mom what’s it’s like in jail. Don’t know if a 15 year old should know what it’s like to be in a cell and take a shower with other inmates

How will seeing other inmates in jumpsuits be a bad thing?

What is wrong with her asking her other what it's like to be in jail? And why shouldn't a 15 year-old know what it's like to be in a cell? She would learn that it isn't fun, and that being deprived of liberty is something to be avoided. She would learn that committing crimes against society is terrible, and that there is punishment which is severe.

It's not as if she would see the showers or the cells. She would visit her mother in a visiting area.

I'm really not sure what you're getting at here.

Just wonder if the environment and the details are app for for a young girl to see. Also wouldn’t she already know all the basic stuff from tv and school anyway?