Married 32 years I initiate all physical affection - 11/15/21 12:14 PM
Husband here, always treated my wife like a Queen (her words) all her friends jokingly tell her they would take me in a second if she died. So 2 Grown married sons and 3 grandkids later. I was fortunate to be able to purchase a 1800s renovated farmhouse out in the country near my kids.
I wanted to retire but my job said they need me and allowed remote work for as long as I am willing. I have always put my needs last and my wife was free to raise and the spoil the kids to the point that now they say they won't do the same because they know they had it too good. Anyway now it is all about the grandkids. I still show her love constantly.
Being alone a lot made me see that part of being giving was due to my lack of self esteem and one day my wife mentioned she would like some Christmas presents to open with everyone, Fyi she always gets huge gifts, This year I got her a new Explorer because her old cars couldn't fit the car seats and we are waiting on a Yorkshire puppy to be weaned.
So I got mad and she said what's wrong. I told her I do All the hugging kissing affectionate talk and you do NONE EVER didn't yell but was firm. As usual she turned it to her and said she doesn't feel attractive. Mind you she did photo shoots to promote advertising agencies.
She apologized and said she would try. So underwhelming effort and complaints when we did cuddle about how I touched her Not sexual just caresses.
Lost and lonely. I tried not iniating but it hurts and I see a marriage where it was always about her needs I feel like I'm done Sorry long but this is just a snippet
I wanted to retire but my job said they need me and allowed remote work for as long as I am willing. I have always put my needs last and my wife was free to raise and the spoil the kids to the point that now they say they won't do the same because they know they had it too good. Anyway now it is all about the grandkids. I still show her love constantly.
Being alone a lot made me see that part of being giving was due to my lack of self esteem and one day my wife mentioned she would like some Christmas presents to open with everyone, Fyi she always gets huge gifts, This year I got her a new Explorer because her old cars couldn't fit the car seats and we are waiting on a Yorkshire puppy to be weaned.
So I got mad and she said what's wrong. I told her I do All the hugging kissing affectionate talk and you do NONE EVER didn't yell but was firm. As usual she turned it to her and said she doesn't feel attractive. Mind you she did photo shoots to promote advertising agencies.
She apologized and said she would try. So underwhelming effort and complaints when we did cuddle about how I touched her Not sexual just caresses.
Lost and lonely. I tried not iniating but it hurts and I see a marriage where it was always about her needs I feel like I'm done Sorry long but this is just a snippet