Second marriage with adult children - 12/17/21 10:04 PM
Hi
I am new on here but I’m looking for some discussions on people are in second marriages .. I was married for 19 years from age 23 to 42.. we have two sons together.. 29 and 26.. I have one granddaughter who is 20 months old. After we divorced in ‘08, i dated some.. then after 5 years.. I remarried. My husband is 4 years older than me.. we have been married 8 years. He has 3 adult sons.. 34, 31, and 27 and has 5 grandchildren.
We have been married 8 years. His oldest son and family live about 6 1/2) hours away.. they have moved several times due to his job.. so they aren’t in very much. His middle son and family live two hours away. His youngest is married and in the marines in Germany.
My oldest is married .. he and my daughter in law and my granddaughter live two hours away. My youngest son lives locally.
I am finding that I am losing feelings for my husband. I don’t want it to be that way but I can’t help what I’m feeling or lack of. He’s a very good man.
Of course we both knew each one of us had kids.. but you have no way of knowing things til you are in it. Now with grandchildren, it’s different. When my son or his wife sends me videos of my granddaughter, my husband will watch them but just isn’t as interested as he would be if they were his grandkids. And I’m sure I’m that way with his also. I just never knew it would be like this. Has anyone else experienced things like this in second marriages?
Thank you
I am new on here but I’m looking for some discussions on people are in second marriages .. I was married for 19 years from age 23 to 42.. we have two sons together.. 29 and 26.. I have one granddaughter who is 20 months old. After we divorced in ‘08, i dated some.. then after 5 years.. I remarried. My husband is 4 years older than me.. we have been married 8 years. He has 3 adult sons.. 34, 31, and 27 and has 5 grandchildren.
We have been married 8 years. His oldest son and family live about 6 1/2) hours away.. they have moved several times due to his job.. so they aren’t in very much. His middle son and family live two hours away. His youngest is married and in the marines in Germany.
My oldest is married .. he and my daughter in law and my granddaughter live two hours away. My youngest son lives locally.
I am finding that I am losing feelings for my husband. I don’t want it to be that way but I can’t help what I’m feeling or lack of. He’s a very good man.
Of course we both knew each one of us had kids.. but you have no way of knowing things til you are in it. Now with grandchildren, it’s different. When my son or his wife sends me videos of my granddaughter, my husband will watch them but just isn’t as interested as he would be if they were his grandkids. And I’m sure I’m that way with his also. I just never knew it would be like this. Has anyone else experienced things like this in second marriages?
Thank you