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Hi, just been looking at the definition of emotional abuse and it seems to be very similar to gaslighting:
Blaming
Trivialising
Exaggerating
Distorting the truth
I am just wondering if by realisng that when our WS/WH are doing this, understanding it is a form of abuse means we can deal with it differently?
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Yes of course it does.
Understanding that you are being gaslighted makes all the difference in the world.
The problem is that those being gaslighted dont realize that they are being gaslit and accept the false reality as truth.
This is clearly shown in the move Gaslight
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Just found a really appropriate definition:
Emotional Abuse - Any pattern of behavior directed at one individual by another which promotes in them a destructive sense of Fear, Obligation or Guilt (FOG).
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Hi, just been looking at the definition of emotional abuse and it seems to be very similar to gaslighting:
Blaming
Trivialising
Exaggerating
Distorting the truth
I am just wondering if by realisng that when our WS/WH are doing this, understanding it is a form of abuse means we can deal with it differently? Have you seen this? Please Explain Gaslighting
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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