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A lady in my sunday school class asked the class to pray fpr her marriage.
Her husband is a busy small business owner working all the time during this busy time of year.
I know its inappropriate to discuss marriage builders directly with her
Is it appropriate to offer a Harley book to the husband?
Its said that unsolicited advice is always self serving.
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She's reaching out to her community to gain support and help for her marriage.
I wouldn't offer advice to her maybe him.
Either tell them your success story using this program or, if you prefer to keep your private life private, simply suggest they checkout marriagebuilders.com.
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I wouldn't see a problem bringing a Marriage Builders book with youand ttelling her that you and your wife have created a wonderful, healthy marriage through marriage builders. And then refer her to this site
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I wouldn't see a problem bringing a Marriage Builders book with youand ttelling her that you and your wife have created a wonderful, healthy marriage through marriage builders. And then refer her to this site That is what I was thinking. I would avoid talking about her marriage problems and just refer her to the forum. Of course, Jedi is divorced, though.
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JK,
Tough one, I think because I wonder if my marriage would be in better shape now had someone introduced me to MB 10 or 15 years ago.
So far no one who I've introduced the concepts to has rejected them, and a few marriages and relationships were saved by them, with the people thanking me later.
God Bless
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I wouldn't see a problem bringing a Marriage Builders book with youand ttelling her that you and your wife have created a wonderful, healthy marriage through marriage builders. And then refer her to this site I could see giving her the book and/or pointing her to the site but it would be dishonest of Jedi to say he has created a wonderful, healthy marriage with his wife. Jedi, I would recommend you tell her that you wish you had found MB sooner rather than later but that you know of many people who have saved their marriages by using MB. But don't lie to the woman. If she knows or finds out you are divorced, it will raise an eyebrow and your word won't be worth much to her. Good luck
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Dr. Harley has said he doesn't get a lot of luck with unsolicited advice, and it usually makes people think ill of him. When he and Joyce discuss it on the radio show, they usually come around to giving someone a Marriage Builders book as a good way to help people without directly offering them advice. I would classify telling them about the Marriage Builders site as similar.
I don't think you would be off base telling her about marriagebuilders.com or giving a Marriage Builders book. If you don't have any contact with the husband, I'd give it to her directly but refuse to discuss further. I wouldn't tell her about the forum - a lot of people come to the site without even using it. You might mention the radio show.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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This is what I ended up doing:
I subscribed her email address to the Marriage Builders Newsletter.
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