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#2599779 02/24/12 01:28 AM
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Hello to all.As of late things inthe my life have been alright. All except for the biggest thing my husband cheating on me for over 4four years. I sometimes wonder about it alot. Since he started cheating.g on me 3months in to our marriage. I have tried to vet my head around it but I still can't u
nderstand why he would do it. I must say he has been cheating most of his life on everyone he has been with. I know that he bas told me that most of his life he grew up with seeing cheating from all sides of his family. At a young age he was introduces to porn and who knows what else. Hey im not saying I haven't haze my fair share of crazy things. I am pretty much just as bad as the rest. I have tried to love him tried to explain myself maybe not in the best ways which has cause damage my anger had been pretty awful. I am still hurting inside there are so many angles to this whole messed up life. And I think the worst part of it all is he wont give up the other person. Gosh 4 years and going and still no end in sight. Doesn't





he want to be healed and be clean to live right choose Christ over his own fleshly way. I say better Jesus's way since that is the only way which leads to life and that more abundantly.I wonder if he will ever be free of his prison.


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Now that you have vented do you want to stay married or get divorced?

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Originally Posted By: sammid
Hello everyone,

I must say that this affair my husband is having is awful. I told him I knew about it and he finally admitted to it. This mind you was back in 2008. The affair is still going on. I must say I wish that exposing it would have helped to stop it but it keeps going on. I believe that the only way it is going to end is if I leave, but if I leave I am not coming back to this nightmare it has just been to0 much and I don't believe he is willing to change.

Total mess and so many lies it's heart breaking

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It sounds like you should Plan B.
Have you read Surviving An Affair by Dr. Harley?

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Bump for sammid.


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Sammid, what have you done to end the affair? Who is this woman?

Do you have children together with your husband?


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Originally Posted By: sammid
im not saying I haven't haze my fair share of crazy things. What crazy things are you referring to? I am pretty much just as bad as the rest. Have you had sexual contact with anyone other than your husband during your marriage? I have tried to love him tried to explain myself maybe not in the best ways which has cause damage my anger had been pretty awful. I am still hurting inside there are so many angles to this whole messed up life. And I think the worst part of it all is he wont give up the other person. You said the affair is the worst part. What are the other parts? And what are other angles or perspectives on this situation?


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