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#2184060 - 12/29/08 11:26 PM husband saw sister-in-law naked!
annabell7 Offline
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My husband knowingly walked in the room I had just asked him to wait outside of because my sister-in-law was naked after just having given birth. When I noticed he was in the room, I asked him to leave but he refused saying my brother said it was OK. (He and my sister-in-law are both in the medical field and do not think much of seeing the human body.) I feel like he cheated on me right before my eyes! I do not know how we can ever be in the same room with my sister-in-law again knowing my husband has seen her naked. I feel so betrayed. I just lost my Dad and have very little family left. Any advice?

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#2184066 - 12/29/08 11:38 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: annabell7]
bigkahuna Offline
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I think you're way over-reacting.

Do you suspect your husband of an affair with his SIL?

There has to be more to this story you aren't telling us...
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#2184069 - 12/29/08 11:43 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: annabell7]
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annabell7 has there been any affair history with your H? or you?

Emotional or Physical affair doesn't matter either... cheating is cheating

A bit more back ground would help immensely so as to give posters an idea of the situation and how this incident fits into the scheme of things and enable yo to receive advice relevant to the issues

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#2184071 - 12/29/08 11:46 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: bigkahuna]
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 Originally Posted By: bigkahuna
I think you're way over-reacting.

Do you suspect your husband of an affair with his SIL?

There has to be more to this story you aren't telling us...


Rather my thoughts too.

More info would be good
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#2184073 - 12/29/08 11:48 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: bigkahuna]
annabell7 Offline
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No - I do not suspect my husband of having an affair with my sister-in-law or anyone else but he did cheat on me twice since we have been together. Also, he is addicted to porn. He has been in recovery for some time, even going to a support group but anytime there is a scantily clad woman around, I get very nervous and wonder what he is thinking about?

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#2184075 - 12/29/08 11:50 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: annabell7]
bigkahuna Offline
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 Originally Posted By: annabell7
No - I do not suspect my husband of having an affair with my sister-in-law or anyone else but he did cheat on me twice since we have been together. Also, he is addicted to porn. He has been in recovery for some time, even going to a support group but anytime there is a scantily clad woman around, I get very nervous and wonder what he is thinking about?


You sought out and posted on an infidelity web forum though.

How long since your Husband's affairs?
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#2184076 - 12/29/08 11:51 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: aussieswife]
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Well, speaking from experience, a woman's body is not exactly is not exactly taut and in its best shape immediately after giving birth.

That said, I do think it was extremely disrespectful of your H to barge in after being asked to wait outside. It doesn't matter if your brother told him it was OK; and, if your brother did tell him this, your brother doesn't have much respect for his own wife and her privacy.

I would probably be ticked off, too, but not thinking of it as being cheating...unless, of course, your H has a prior history of cheating or being some kind of voyeur. I would be ticked off over the lack of respect he showed.
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#2184078 - 12/29/08 11:52 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: aussieswife]
annabell7 Offline
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Registered: 12/29/08
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My husband is a recovering sex addict. He can not be in situations where women are dresses provocatively (let alone naked). I am always having to be on the look out for things, if he sees an image, it stays in his mind for weeks. We do not go to public pools, dance clubs, etc & we have a filter on our computer. I asked my husband to wait outside the room because my sister-in-law was naked but he just walked right in anyway. Then when I told him how uncomfortable the situation made me, he actually yelled at me.

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#2184080 - 12/29/08 11:53 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: bigkahuna]
annabell7 Offline
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There was no- my husband saw my sister-in-law naked forum , and anyway I do consider what he did cheating.

He cheated on me 16 yrs ago but this situation has brought back all the old feelings of worthlessness.

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#2184082 - 12/29/08 11:57 PM Re: husband saw sister-in-law naked! [Re: Lady_Clueless]
annabell7 Offline
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Registered: 12/29/08
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that's just it- my husband is a sex addict. He reacts differently when put in situations like this. I have to worry whenever there is a improperly dresses woman around and now I can't even be in the same room with my sister-in-law for fear my husband is picturing her naked.

He was going to meetings but hasn't for awhile. I think this may be why he slipped - in a big way!

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