Let's say you have a spouse in withdrawl who has verbally
stated they want a divorce, they are "tired" and "not willing to try anymore", but within a few days / weeks the spouse begins to *positively respond
to your efforts to incorporate Marriage Builders...Are you in recovery
? (or does "recovery" only apply to marriages with affairs?) Is the spouse out of
By "positively respond", I mean respond to your changes in communication and behavior with noticeable & positive changes in their
communication and behavior...but they have not verbally
rescinded their earlier statement about wanting to split up and have not initiated another (follow up) "serious talk" about the marriage to confirm that they are seeing things in a new way.
I am actively working to manage my anxiety created by the uncertainty which I am experiencing with my DH's satatement about wanting a divorce, and I said I would not post about our situation until Sunday or until something big happened - whichever came first. Well, something big happened today
. We received word that our home loan which was in arrears (due to a period of underemployment for him after retiring form the military) has been modified. The bank simply tacked the amt in arrears onto the end of the loan and now we will simply begin making regular payments. If, after 6 months we pay as agreed, we're out of the woods. This is a big thing because it was a HUGE source of stress for both of us...and now it is gone. Today is not exactly a good day because I am sick at home / off from work with a very sore throat. The house is empty and everyone I know is at work - so of course I am here and posting for comfort / company
I do not feel that now is the right time to try and have another "big talk" about our marriage. I feel it's too early for that. I think I should keep doing
For the MB veterans (and all the active & enthusaistic newbs like me) - What are your thoughts? Any help with understanding this and any answers you have to my questions would be greatly appreciated.
In case you are unfamiliar with my story & you feel you need more background info before helping me by sharing your thoughts on this, here's it is
Again, thanks for reading this & thanks for sharing anything you can.