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#2757010 - 09/25/13 10:48 AM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: MelodyLane]
Gamma Offline
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Melody,

Except that in this case he has kids he would like to keep away from an OM who could abuse or harm them. This OM is killing his family there has to be consequences. It's not about getting his wife back it's about keeping OM away.

We all know how much more likely it is that an OM or step parent will abuse non-biological children.

God Bless
Gamma


Edited by Gamma (09/25/13 10:49 AM)

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#2757019 - 09/25/13 11:04 AM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: Gamma]
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Originally Posted By: Gamma
Melody,

Except that in this case he has kids he would like to keep away from an OM who could abuse or harm them. This OM is killing his family there has to be consequences. It's not about getting his wife back it's about keeping OM away.

We all know how much more likely it is that an OM or step parent will abuse non-biological children.

God Bless
Gamma


Except that that has nothing to do with the workplace.
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#2757024 - 09/25/13 11:23 AM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: markos]
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Originally Posted By: markos
Originally Posted By: Gamma
Melody,

Except that in this case he has kids he would like to keep away from an OM who could abuse or harm them. This OM is killing his family there has to be consequences. It's not about getting his wife back it's about keeping OM away.

We all know how much more likely it is that an OM or step parent will abuse non-biological children.

God Bless
Gamma


Except that that has nothing to do with the workplace.

Dr. Harley is very clear on this.

If this isn't a workplace affair (which it isn't) then no workplace exposure is to be done.
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#2757119 - 09/25/13 08:11 PM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: BrainHurts]
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Registered: 09/14/13
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Not only that, but this guy works at a large company (over 10,000 employees) and at least 2,000 are on a 6-building campus.
I don't have the time to search out people. I still have a job, you know!!

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#2757120 - 09/25/13 08:14 PM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: AR2kids]
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And the OM is on business travel this week anyway, so all he and WW do is text each other about 20-30 times a day and have a few phone conversations. (I know because I can see the daily phone records).
And to her the prospect of stop seeing him does not mean EVERYTHING cold turkey. She still would presume to be texting and emailing and calling.

I have seen two Christian lawyers and they both said, "Go through a mediator if she isn't going to try to kill you". And the fact is, she is not going to try to destroy me. She is already in agreement that with a divorce it will be 50/50 split in assets and custody. So no - no expensive lawyers. California is a no-fault divorce state. The judge won't care who cheated on who.

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#2757122 - 09/25/13 08:34 PM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: Gamma]
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Originally Posted By: Gamma
Melody,

Except that in this case he has kids he would like to keep away from an OM who could abuse or harm them. This OM is killing his family there has to be consequences. It's not about getting his wife back it's about keeping OM away.

We all know how much more likely it is that an OM or step parent will abuse non-biological children.

God Bless
Gamma
Exposure at the workplace is unnecessary in this case. It is not a workplace affair.
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#2757124 - 09/25/13 09:13 PM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: AR2kids]
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Registered: 10/09/11
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Loc: Wisconsin
Originally Posted By: AR2kids

I have seen two Christian lawyers and they both said, "Go through a mediator if she isn't going to try to kill you". And the fact is, she is not going to try to destroy me. ....


I suppose hiring Androcles is one way to go. Did you spend your youth pulling thorns from the paws of divorce lawyers?

She's not going to try to destroy you. She is destroying you right now.



Edited by ItCanGetBetter (09/25/13 09:14 PM)
Edit Reason: Spelling
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#2757126 - 09/25/13 09:18 PM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: AR2kids]
ItCanGetBetter Offline
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Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 395
Loc: Wisconsin
Quote:
And the OM is on business travel this week anyway, so all he and WW do is text each other about 20-30 times a day and have a few phone conversations. (I know because I can see the daily phone records).


Are they calling/texting during business hours? Is he using business phone?

Could be your basis for a workplace exposure.
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#2757131 - 09/25/13 09:27 PM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: ItCanGetBetter]
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I'm out. There is no point in bashing my head against the wall any more here.

He'll get it eventually.
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#2757137 - 09/25/13 09:43 PM Re: Want Plan B, but she won't get out [Re: AR2kids]
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Registered: 11/24/10
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Loc: Moved to Uranus
Originally Posted By: AR2kids
And the OM is on business travel this week anyway, so all he and WW do is text each other about 20-30 times a day and have a few phone conversations. (I know because I can see the daily phone records).
And to her the prospect of stop seeing him does not mean EVERYTHING cold turkey. She still would presume to be texting and emailing and calling.

I have seen two Christian lawyers and they both said, "Go through a mediator if she isn't going to try to kill you". And the fact is, she is not going to try to destroy me. She is already in agreement that with a divorce it will be 50/50 split in assets and custody. So no - no expensive lawyers. California is a no-fault divorce state. The judge won't care who cheated on who.

Did you expose to the Homeschool parents yet?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
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