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Here are some more clips on triggers and dwelling.

Radio clip on Triggers
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Another clip on triggers.

Radio Clip on Getting Rid of Triggers


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But what if he won't tell the whole truth? What if it keeps trickling in because you keep finding things out. I thought I had been told the whole truth, then a week later I found something else out. Then a week later i stumbled across another piece of information. I haven't learned anything new for over 3 months now, but I still feel like he hasn't told me the whole truth. I feel like he never will. So how do you stop dwelling on it? How long uintill the pain diminishes? I do really well for a couple weeks and then there is a trigger and I'm depressed for a week.

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So how do you stop dwelling on it?
You were advised on your thread to get him to take a polygraph. Did you ever do that? You were also advised to move. Did you?


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Shannon writes that she's consumed with her husband's infidelity. She asks how she can move forward


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I totally understand you questioning whether or not he is telling you the truth about everything. During the time I was trying to get my husband to confess about his affair, he offered to take a dang lie detector test! Although he is a police officer, I still don't think he would have actually passed. Once he confessed, it took me almost three weeks to get EVERYTHING out of him. I even had to get the other woman and her husband involved because she had confessed everything to her husband. My husband would tell me one thing, then I would ask her & it would be a totally different answer. I'd confront my husband and he would finally admit the truth, her being right. It sounds crazy but I think in my mind it's easier to forgive her, maybe just because she was honest about it all. I too would find something new out, get past it, have a good few days, then out of nowhere, here came something else.

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Sunny writes for Dr. Harley's perspective regarding triggers and strong emotions when reading the book Surviving an Affair.
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Jose writes if we are not suppose to talk about past mistakes like an affair, then how do we deal with the mistake?
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