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Plan b right for about 2 weeks now. No contacts no spying no asking. If I've been asked conversation turned. Read many comments about a wayward being like a junkie but a BS can be one too. We all say its different for us, things will change as our story is different. The stories are the same, the characters are different. Reminded myself this is SAA not how to force a marriage to work! And reminded myself to spend time with people who appreciate me as much as I do them.
Although I've been roped in to a trial run for friends marathon! Going to get dropped 25 miles from home and try to run (walk) back! Worth a try! No not try do!

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No; dont do 25 miles.

I thought you have an injury. You need to take care of yourself and follow a marathon running plan.
There are many available but I like Jeff Galloway's books.
I do the walk/run method he advocates and often place in my age group!

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I'm probably going to cycle it anyway! Easy to talk about!!

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Happy! Done my event. Didn't do it in the time I wanted
as only 90% fit! But got a time to beat next year.
Also have self respect and a lot of gratitude to all
that have posted to me.
May need to move my thread as now in plan D!
Jedi called it early on and was right!
I forgot how happy I could be until I found the
people who appreciate me for me!
I am surviving the affair!

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Originally Posted by Bluebeck
Happy! Done my event. Didn't do it in the time I wanted
as only 90% fit! But got a time to beat next year.
Also have self respect and a lot of gratitude to all
that have posted to me.
May need to move my thread as now in plan D!
Jedi called it early on and was right!
I forgot how happy I could be until I found the
people who appreciate me for me!
I am surviving the affair!


That's great!
There are a lot of beautiful healthy women out there in the world that would love to show care towards you.
Intensive exercise can be addictive!

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I guess I'm in the right place now! Actually and metaphorically!!
Next target 8 mile mud run happening soon. Team event with
Family members. Time to share support

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I've never done a mud run but they look challenging.
Just make sure you dont talk to any women until you are divorced.

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I get that. Even when divorced I think I will shy away from commitment.

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Originally Posted by Bluebeck
I get that. Even when divorced I think I will shy away from commitment.


Yea, take some time for yourself.
Enjoy life and then jump back into the game when you are ready

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More fun more run this weekend with family. Legals in limbo awaiting her response. Don't feel free yet?!? But I do appreciate honesty.
Christmas approaches. The last ten years I've been to church with the ex and her family. I was introduced to that church through her and we would not go regular but Christmas we never missed. My family only visit church for weddings and christenings. But I know I can walk through any door and be welcome.
I am never alone

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Originally Posted by Bluebeck
More fun more run this weekend with family. Legals in limbo awaiting her response. Don't feel free yet?!? But I do appreciate honesty.
Christmas approaches. The last ten years I've been to church with the ex and her family. I was introduced to that church through her and we would not go regular but Christmas we never missed. My family only visit church for weddings and christenings. But I know I can walk through any door and be welcome.
I am never alone

Sir, I encourage you to find a Church and attend REGULARLY.

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Also, look into joining a fraternity.
It is good companionship.

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Family. The best tonic! Hate them love them it's all unconditional! Found a new gripe.. Work! Same job still for now but as pointed at me before it is poison to me. Still is, same reminders same people. I'm young again! Free options free choices. Mainly to do what makes me happy! You do come out stronger in the end. Or muddier! Jedi,I've been doing a lot of events that include obstacles! Look up 'Tough Mudder' or 'Grimm Challenge'. I've seen people fly through these events to get good times. Me and my team/family/friends do it to get messy!
Life is messy....

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Ive seen the Mud Challenges but havent participated in them.
I ran in a half marathon last month and a 6k a couple weeks ago.
The mud races are a out of my price range.

Are you divorced now?
Whats going on with her?

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Sir! Have you a back yard? Get training until the price is right! Or hop the pond, always room for one more! Our teams build!

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