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WS is synomous with selfish. Are you familiar with the giver and taker personas we each have? Her taker is in full control and doesn't want to give you anything, so you won't see any positive reinforcement for your actions. Only negative, just understand this is a smoke screen. Plan A without expecting anything in return. You need to expose like ML said. That is step one.

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Originally Posted by TranquilDark
WS is synomous with selfish. Are you familiar with the giver and taker personas we each have? Her taker is in full control and doesn't want to give you anything, so you won't see any positive reinforcement for your actions. Only negative, just understand this is a smoke screen. Plan A without expecting anything in return. You need to expose like ML said. That is step one.

I am familiar with the concepts and have no expectations as far as getting anything in return, although it confuses me when I seem to get "positive reinforcement" as you say.


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When will you be exposing the affair?


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I did expose it. Nobody believed me until about 3 minutes ago, I sent GF message about them being together this morning and she has unfriended my wife on FB, changed her relationship status, and thanked me.


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Now send a letter to the company President and a key VP exposing the affair.
Send an email to all family and friends of the OM and your wife. Today!

EDIT: Also, post the OM on the cheater exposure website www.cheaterville.com.

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Originally Posted by Nowheremann
I did expose it. Nobody believed me until about 3 minutes ago, I sent GF message about them being together this morning and she has unfriended my wife on FB, changed her relationship status, and thanked me.
Who did you expose it to?

Who on OM's side did you expose it to?


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Nowhereman,

You wrote I did expose it. Nobody believed me until about 3 minutes ago, I sent GF message about them being together this morning and she has unfriended my wife on FB, changed her relationship status, and thanked me.

Congratualations, please refer others who are hesitant to expose or incomplete when the time comes.

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I still feel like nobody else believes me, or they just don't care. It's rather frustrating, as clearly the people at their job are either perfectly fine with them screwing around, or perfectly fine pretending it isn't happening and it makes me feel...frustrated.


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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
Now send a letter to the company President and a key VP exposing the affair.
Send an email to all family and friends of the OM and your wife. Today!

EDIT: Also, post the OM on the cheater exposure website www.cheaterville.com.

Have you done this?

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Yes, I did it all, but again I've heard nothing back.

Wife called this morning to accuse me of bugging her phone and reading her texts because OM's xGF apparently knew stuff about messages exchanged on Easter. Apparently OM accused me of doing it.

Is there any advice on continued contact with OM's GF/xGF as far as helping continue to kill the affair? I didn't know her before, and she's only sent the one message to me.


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Originally Posted by Nowheremann
Yes, I did it all, but again I've heard nothing back.

Wife called this morning to accuse me of bugging her phone and reading her texts because OM's xGF apparently knew stuff about messages exchanged on Easter. Apparently OM accused me of doing it.

Is there any advice on continued contact with OM's GF/xGF as far as helping continue to kill the affair? I didn't know her before, and she's only sent the one message to me.

Has Cheaterville posted the picture of OM? If so, make sure you send him a link to it. You can go on the Cheaterville website and send they will send him a link by email!

I would stay in contact with OM Girlfriend. She can help keep you informed of what is going on, but do not reveal any spy techniques to her

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These cheaters HATE internet exposure so when he finds out he is on Cheaterville he will be furious.
From the cheaterville website, send links to all of his friends and relatives.

EDIT: Also, make sure your exposure post was detailed and ideally has some PROOF attached as well.

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Anybody know the inner workings of FB? He seems to have disappeared completely and I'm just wondering how complete you can be as far as hiding yourself from everyone except friends?


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Originally Posted by Nowheremann
Anybody know the inner workings of FB? He seems to have disappeared completely and I'm just wondering how complete you can be as far as hiding yourself from everyone except friends?
I'm sure he's blocked you or made it so private that only friends can see.

You can try to make a new FB with a new email. Why do you need to see his Facebook? Haven't you exposed him already?


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Originally Posted by Nowheremann
Anybody know the inner workings of FB? He seems to have disappeared completely and I'm just wondering how complete you can be as far as hiding yourself from everyone except friends?

Try signing out of your account and see if you can see him. Also, go to some of his friends and family Facebook pages to see if you can see him.


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My sister-in-law was friends with him and is no longer, nor does he show up as a friend on anyone's page. It said "This page has been disabled", but I'm not FB savvy so I don't know if that actually means anything.

As far as why, I was curious when he suddenly disappeared from my wife's page; all his pictures became untagged and comments he made seem to have been deleted. Made me wonder if he was hiding or running, or a little of both.



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Originally Posted by Nowheremann
My sister-in-law was friends with him and is no longer, nor does he show up as a friend on anyone's page. It said "This page has been disabled", but I'm not FB savvy so I don't know if that actually means anything.

As far as why, I was curious when he suddenly disappeared from my wife's page; all his pictures became untagged and comments he made seem to have been deleted. Made me wonder if he was hiding or running, or a little of both.

Then that means he has disabled his account entirely.


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I suppose the question now is...what's next?

It would seem that her work doesn't care, and I've heard nothing from anyone else except the GF.

I'm trying to work on me, get out and live, and all that. Is that all there is at this point?


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Originally Posted by Nowheremann
Yes, I did it all, but again I've heard nothing back.

Wife called this morning to accuse me of bugging her phone and reading her texts because OM's xGF apparently knew stuff about messages exchanged on Easter. Apparently OM accused me of doing it.

What was your response to this? Does your wife know you are in contact with the GF?


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I told her I didn't bug her phone, haven't seen anything since she moved out. She sounded like she believed me, but who knows.

OM showed her letter I sent right after it happened, as well as showing her what I sent the second time, so yes she knows. She thought GF didn't believe it first time and assumed that I had sent the additional message to try again, to which I pointed out that GF had already removed her from Instagram following on Easter; she knew or was trying to believe and I guess found evidence on her own, I just helped her become sure.

I am no longer in contact with GF though, as she requested that I not bother her again. I did wonder if maybe it's all him (i.e. he intercepted messages), but I don't think that's the case.


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