Wow!!! I can't believe it's been 5 years since this happened. I thought I would give a quick update to anyone that maybe remembers this story. Things between my wife and I are great! It is true that it takes 3 to 5 years to get over an affair. When I first came here I thought that was ridiculous, but it is very true. I can honestly say now that I am completely over the affair. I don't get triggered at all anymore, and if fact I can talk about things and view things that used to instantly trigger me. I don't feel scared and insecure anymore. I completely trust my wife again, and never even worry about if she is hiding things. I occasionally will check her phone and instantly realize that I have nothing to worry about. My life has changed so much in the last 5 years. I am a much stronger person. Life is very good!
A couple years ago I started running to help myself cope with the pain, and it has truly been a blessing. I now run 6 days a week, and have run 5 marathons. Running helped me heal and work through a lot of the mental struggles I was going through. I am down 60+ pounds, and healthier than I have even been. My wife is going to run a half marathon with me this spring.

Great news! Thanks for the update!