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Well the past few days have been great. We have been getting along, and I've been trying to treat her like a goddess, without being clingy. No talk about d has been brought up. I hope this might be the start of the road to recovery. I talked to her about ad's last night, and she wants nothing to do with them, says she doesn't feel like she needs them. Sir, Recovery can not start until she agrees to permanently end all contact with the other men and write a No Contact letter
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Have you listened to these? Anger Management 101
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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The d has been put on hold. Nc letters were sent via text, right before her number was changed. I actually found out what happened from last week, she told me today last week he called my sil. Well she told her sister to tell him it is over, and if he calls her agian she doesn't care to know. Today my wife told me she is ready to move foward, and start repairing our marriage.
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The d has been put on hold. Nc letters were sent via text, right before her number was changed. I actually found out what happened from last week, she told me today last week he called my sil. Well she told her sister to tell him it is over, and if he calls her agian she doesn't care to know. Today my wife told me she is ready to move foward, and start repairing our marriage. Is SIL a friend to your marriage? How does he have SIL's number?
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He stole the number from his wife's phone, sil was friends with her too.
I thought she was a friend to our marriage, I believe she still is.
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I would be happier if your SiL had told him to go jump off a pier and then informed you instead of telling her sister. That is what I would to someone trying to draw my sister into adultery.
However if she agrees to your wife's request I guess you could put her on probation and see how supportive she is of recovery going forward.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Today my wife told me she is ready to move foward, and start repairing our marriage. I'm so happy to hear that. I hope that she is serious.
Remarried 7/16
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First off, I would like to say thank you all, for your help.
Second, all has been well for now. Her depressive state is slowly but surly going away, with my help of listening, when she needs an ear. I'm trying my best to be understanding, and that is a big help. We are working on creating a happy, healthy marriage, and still have a long bumpy road ahead of us.
If I can give anybody in this situation some advice, I will tell you, if you truly want it, don't give up. I didn't, even though there were times I felt like it. There is always hope. I never would have thought 3 weeks ago, that I would be where I am now in my marriage, and in our recovery. Listen to the advice everybody gives you on here, it helped save my marriage for now.
I will be back, checking in, and I'm sure looking for advice. Thanks for everything.
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The best thing you could do for your marriage is a vacation.
Can you and your wife go away for a couple weeks?
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Has there been any updates????? Feel like I am about to embark on the exact same Germany. Right now my WW wants nothing to do with me and Im afraid by the time I get home its going to be worse.
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