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Camper van?


What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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Cost money...shoe string budget but I did think of a perfect solution. I will work every Friday and Saturday back to back and one single day...Tuesday would be ideal. Friday night my husband can come down and stay somehow or if we can't afford a room he can drive me back on Saturday morning and pick me up in the evening. No one likes to work on the weekend anyhow.

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How long would you be able to sustain a schedule like this?


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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I could do this till I graduate.

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Finally able to get all the contact info changed. Everything is done now move on to recovery??

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Well I have to wait for the day shift traveler to leave...

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Originally Posted by MarieMab
Well I have to wait for the day shift traveler to leave...

Can you explain what this means?


Markos' Wife
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What to do with an Angry Husband

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Well I have to wait for the day shift traveler to leave...

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I cannot get the day shift until the day shift girl leaves in oct. But all of the other steps are done.

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This is all very good news.

Recovery requires rebuilding the romantic relationship with your spouse so that your marriage is better than it has ever been before. You do this by spending a minimum of 20 hours per week alone with your husband meeting each other's emotional needs. Where are you with that?


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DS - 38, autistic, lives at home
DD - 37, married and on her own
DS - 32, still living with us
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We are doing really well with that. We work out together four days a week have at least one out date night. We have been shopping together. We just moved so this week has been lots of unpacking and organizing but all in all I would say that part has been good.

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Have you listened to the clips in here?
What is Just Compensation?


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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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I was wondering if any if you guys know if Cheaterville has more than one site they feed. In my effort to secure ep I googled myself to see if any emails or anything were visible and there I was posted on another trashy website. Not my pic but the om and my name in the "story". My husband says he did not put it there....so does cheaterville share? It says it was posted by John Gault. I am absolutely no trying to open a can of worms here but I am afraid of weirdos on the internet.

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I would just focus on the Marriage Builders recovery program.
I suppose you can email Cheaterville with your questions but they really have nothing to do with Dr. Harley.

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I know that it has nothing to do with Dr. Harley I just thought you all would know...

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Did this exposure website have the picture of the OM displayed?
If so, viewing it will cause an "emotional trigger" and hinder recovery.

I encourage you to focus on recovery and not on exposure websites

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It certainly was not the photo that was an emotional trigger. Seeing my name under a sign that says "hope the [censored] was worth it". Was a bit disturbing. I realize you feel this is no big deal Jedi but any future employers could potentially view this.

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Wayward people don't consider the future when they start affairs. Look at countless political figures, sport figures, etc. and their lost income. Yes, it is possible that a future employer could goggle you and find this information. It is one of the potential consequences of an affair.

In my H's case, because he was a military officer, he was dis-enrolled from his advanced schooling and was forced to take an early retirement. At one point, I figured out that his affair cost us somewhere near 1/2 million in lost wages and retirement. Today, my H and I are very happy in a recovered marriage.

Please stop focusing on this exposure stuff and focus on your marriage.

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Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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The photo certainly DID trigger you.

Block such sites and move on with recovery.


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How would I block such sites?

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