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Your right I don't need to have the last word. The Maker will deal with this man and me if I don't get my crap together.
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Your right I don't need to have the last word. The Maker will deal with this man and me if I don't get my crap together. Matthew 18:6 - If anyone causes one of these little ones�those who believe in me�to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.
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DS - 38, autistic, lives at home
DD - 37, married and on her own
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That is very comforting although I know it was all my fault. I knew it was dangerous to talk to this guy...anyway another question completely off my issues. Why if so many more men are cheaters are there more men with ww on this site?
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That is very comforting although I know it was all my fault. I knew it was dangerous to talk to this guy...anyway another question completely off my issues. Why if so many more men are cheaters are there more men with ww on this site? I don't think there are more male cheaters anymore. I seem to remember Dr Harley saying it is even now!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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That is very comforting although I know it was all my fault. I knew it was dangerous to talk to this guy...anyway another question completely off my issues. Why if so many more men are cheaters are there more men with ww on this site? I don't think there are more male cheaters anymore. I seem to remember Dr Harley saying it is even now! Don't focus on questions like that. Focus on your recovery. Have you listed EPs? Change your contact information? Closed are social media sites? If you have good on you! If not you should do so even if your BH doesn't care either way.
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You wroteWhy if so many more men are cheaters are there more men with ww on this site?
Possibly because men have a longer time getting over being cheated on and the public stigma of a man being cheated on is greater. There is no support for a man who has been cheated on, it's not something a man can confide in anyone.
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Ah that makes sense. I have done all the EPs and I am happy to report applied for several new jobs which are are local and day shift. No weekends no holidays which will be great for me as well. I am hoping to hear something next week. Everyone in my life is praying for me:)
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Ah that makes sense. I have done all the EPs and I am happy to report applied for several new jobs which are are local and day shift. No weekends no holidays which will be great for me as well. I am hoping to hear something next week. Everyone in my life is praying for me:) 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I will add to my prayers that you will get a great job that is local and day shift.
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WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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Actually my dad warned me years ago this traveling gig was not good for our marriage but he always thought it would be my husband who would have a hard time remaining faithful...you never know. I find it incredible it takes a horrendous thing like an affair to make a couple take real stock in their relationship. We would have never even heard of marriage builders....
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We have made a point of discussing MB with our three children, only one of whom is married at this point. Have you talked to your daughters at all?
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BW - 70
WH - 65
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
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Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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No but I certainly will. I have been telling all my married friends about it.
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I think one problem is that people don't know there is trouble until there is trouble.
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People are kind of like frogs in the pot where marriage is concerned. It' is sad. I am so grateful my husband refused to give up...even though it must have been so difficult not to kick me to the curb.
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So glad things are going better for you Marie!! My BH and I took a huge pay it in both our jobs in order to be together every night. TOTALY
Worth it though!
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Thanks Ms cen and melody! Things here are really going well. My husband told me last night he felt like this forum must be doing something positive for me. I completely agree:)
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So I am just checking in to let you all know Saturday is my last night shift...I have no job lined up I am just going out on a limb that something will open up so my husband and I don't have to be separated at night:)
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So I am just checking in to let you all know Saturday is my last night shift...I have no job lined up I am just going out on a limb that something will open up so my husband and I don't have to be separated at night:) Fantastic. How has your UA time been? Good luck on finding a new job that compliments your marriage. Good job.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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So I am just checking in to let you all know Saturday is my last night shift...I have no job lined up I am just going out on a limb that something will open up so my husband and I don't have to be separated at night:) Yippee!! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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