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Originally Posted by Gamma
Markos,

You wrote You're not supposed to be discussing it twenty years later!

I agree with that, and for the most part I don't, however after 20+ years my W feels entitled to keep her secrets with OM2, and I've never felt that I got the story to my satisfaction. She can also now claim that she forgot as an easy out.

Also every so often cute details come out like what was in OM2s bedroom at the time of the affair, wait a minute "nothing happened" but you were where?

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But Gamma there wasn't an affair because you weren't married, correct? She was your girlfriend at the time and then you married her knowing about this.

How come you keep saying it was an affair when you weren't married?

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Married 1990

OM2, 1988-1990, my former co-worker, seemed to be emotional, then physical, then emotional.
I don't want to T/J the OP, but I wanted to clarify for others who may be reading along.


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Originally Posted by Gamma
Golfer,

I agree with Melody in that you need to know everything. I let my W's affair slide without asking too many questions 20+ years ago and now I'm stuck with W giving me contradictory stories from time to time

You're not supposed to be discussing it twenty years later!

Unanswered questions will haunt the BH 30+ years. Until the BH gets his answers it is a subject that needs to be visited. For without knowing what happened the BH can not leave the past in the past. The WW's refusal to provide the info keeps the affair in the present. And the future because today all the BH can do is think will tomorrow be the day I find out.

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Gamma is not a BH.



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Brainy is not playing with words. Cheating while dating and adultery are two very different things.


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