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My husband has had a heart attack that required surgery. He is on 7 different tablets and his Dr, and cardiologist told him the dangers of drinking on this medication. He has always enjoyed a glass or two of wine at night, but since getting out of hospital hus drinking has gotten out of control. I have tried talking to him about this, gotten literature that explains the dangers, spoken to his Doctors, but still he drinks to excess. I have ramted, raved and screamed at him, not that i am proud of that, but at my wits end. He promises not to drink again, but come evening put comes the wine. I threatened that if he keeps it up i will leave, i dont want to walk away from him, but i dont want to see him keep doing this and i am worried about what it is doing to his health. Any ideas that might help me get through this. I want our marriage to work, i want to be with him, but this is causing major problems in our relationship. Thanks in advance for reading this and help that you may be able to offer.

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Originally Posted by nell57
My husband has had a heart attack that required surgery. He is on 7 different tablets and his Dr, and cardiologist told him the dangers of drinking on this medication. He has always enjoyed a glass or two of wine at night, but since getting out of hospital hus drinking has gotten out of control. I have tried talking to him about this, gotten literature that explains the dangers, spoken to his Doctors, but still he drinks to excess. I have ramted, raved and screamed at him, not that i am proud of that, but at my wits end. He promises not to drink again, but come evening put comes the wine. I threatened that if he keeps it up i will leave, i dont want to walk away from him, but i dont want to see him keep doing this and i am worried about what it is doing to his health. Any ideas that might help me get through this. I want our marriage to work, i want to be with him, but this is causing major problems in our relationship. Thanks in advance for reading this and help that you may be able to offer.
Will he get into an AA program?

Can you go to an AlAnon meeting? Do they have this in Wales?


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Please read what Dr. Harley says about alcoholics.

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AA is not for me he declared after attending one meeting.
Todat i have made an appointment to see hus doctor to discuss getting him admitted to a rehab clinic, fingers crossed.

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Originally Posted by nell57
AA is not for me he declared after attending one meeting.
Todat i have made an appointment to see hus doctor to discuss getting him admitted to a rehab clinic, fingers crossed.

AA is not for anyone who does not want to give up drinking.


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Originally Posted by nell57
AA is not for me he declared after attending one meeting.
Todat i have made an appointment to see hus doctor to discuss getting him admitted to a rehab clinic, fingers crossed.

The ONLY requirement for membership, (In AA), is a DESIRE to stop drinking.

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Originally Posted by nell57
AA is not for me he declared after attending one meeting.
Todat i have made an appointment to see hus doctor to discuss getting him admitted to a rehab clinic, fingers crossed.
What about AlAnon for you?


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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.




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