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Re: Back to OW
indiegirl #2848835 03/26/15 09:37 PM
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Originally Posted by indiegirl
This is why we tell people not to go to MCs. YOU knew he was not recovering the m but the 'expert' didn't? They just peddle yes man diagnoses. If you want false hope and have the money to pay for it you're in luck.

I'm so sorry you've been so badly let down by TWO people you gave your trust to.


The problem is that the conditions which allowed him to carry on his affair were not removed.
Dr. Harleys methods for recovering from an affair WORK but they muat be followed exactly as detailed in his book Surviving An Affair. For some reason you chose not to follow his methods and opted for a local marriage counselor.
Re: Back to OW
MelodyLane #2848861 03/27/15 06:00 AM
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Originally Posted by lacole
I have already talked to two lawyers about this....if I kicked him out, he can come back in. Unless he volunarily leaves or there is abuse, I cannot force him out of his home.

So I leave all his stuff on the driveway and change the locks. He will be back in no time...

Are you sure about that? Have you asked him to move? I have been here for 14 years and only know of ONE INCIDENT where the WS called the police to force his way back in.

I would be asking him to get out and packing his bags. If he calls the police, then don't give him the key. Tell the police you can't stand to have him in your home and ask them to encourage him to go elsewhere. If you are fORCED to let him in, then lock him out again and again.

And the reason he moved home is because he needed a new flophouse.


No wayward is going to risk you standing on the doorstep explaining to police officers that he can't come in because he's having an affair.

The cops will just go.


What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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