He said he is working on the paperwork to file for divorce and told me he wants half of pretty much everything and to except papers to sign in the next two weeks or so.
He never paid a bill in the last 10+ years, I scrimp and save to support us and now he wants half. He always had money he made from the business but spent that an hunting trips, beer, going out to lunch everyday and other fun stuff for him. He had the affair not me! He even took a year long vacation on money from selling a bunch of our stuff and did not share any of that with me! Grrrrrr. Seems so unfair- his bad deeds should Count! I moved to Alaska because it was his dream not mine. I had a career in California but gave that up. Because I was able to start a new one and he chose to be a lazy beer drinking bum, I get the short end of the stick.
Uggg. So sorry to hear all this. Like someone else said - possession is 9/10ths... Can you liquidate any money that he wants half of before he files? As for physical things - is he in Florida now? If not, how is he going to get these things? Can you have sold them and spent the money - wink wink?
All states have some sort of residency law. If you have any attorney you should definitely question this and see if there is any advantage to you filing first (if possible, FL has longer residency requirements than most.) But if he's lying about his residency maybe your attorney can challenge that.
My advice regarding how hard to fight for things is to put up a decent fight, but stop if it starts really getting the best of you. There is something to say for having it behind you and moving on, but please don't just roll over. When I divorced my ex (who I later learned had been a serial cheater all our marriage) I just let everything go. I told myself I was being mature, but now I realize I was just avoiding conflict and I feel I was pathetic and regret it very much. He totally used me and tossed me aside and I never stood up for myself.
I would do everything you can to minimize assets before he files. Good luck.