Originally Posted by Meere
I guess what I'm trying to say is, if I snoop on my partner without his knowledge or permission, then I am breaking one of the basic concepts of this approach - I am being dishonest.
No. Not dishonest. First of all, these concepts apply to the MARRIAGE partnership. It is Marriage Builders, not Relationship Builders).

The goal is for both spouses to be interdependent and integrated. They both agree that the other should snoop anytime they need reassurance. Trust grows through verification and clean checkups. Anxiety like yours would diminish. And the open snooping tempers temptation.

Originally Posted by Meere
It's unlikely my man will agree to me riffling through his emails, texts and browser history, so where does that leave me?
In a weak position. Wondering. Maybe wasting precious time.

If you do struggle with an emotional disorder, you might be better off with someone who is a stronger partner for you. By the way, have you been to a psychiatrist? You might try a mood stabilizer to keep your amygdala from being hijacked.