Why would he bring that up out of the blue? Because he's probably having an affair and his mind is occupied figuring out how to hide this affair from you. He already has made up an answer for every question you might ask.

I do not have the address.

You can look it up, right?

I can

Is it a male or female?

Male

melweb, he has probably given you a fake name for this "coworker" so you wouldn't be able to find him anyway. Can you buy a GPS and put it on his car when he gets back? That way you could go to his location and see for yourself what he is doing.

Do you have acces to phone bills?

Well after several hours of sluething last night, I came up with exactly nothing.
1)I cannot get into his personal email, or his Credit Karma acct (I will keep trying tho)

2)I did get into his Verizon acct and while I found some numbers I didn't know, most of them I did (or reverse phone look up). Yesterday, on his way to his buddies house, all texts, outgoing and incoming, were from his buddy, as were all calls. Thursday, when he had plenty of down time and out of my watchful eye while I was in the kitchen cooking, all texts of any length were from his buddy, and the others were just a minute in length each. Any other numbers and or texts , and I went thru Oct and Nov bills, about 500 calls and 2000 texts, that seemed suspicious, in length, time or date, I crossed referenced to that weekend after Halloween when he dropped the bomb, or a time when he would be home, or on his way home from work. Nothing.
3) We have an old iphone4 that we dug out of storage in order to trade in or sell, because the boys needed new phones. That is still in his home office drawer.
4) He is on Lexapro and Cialis. The Lexapro went with him. The Cialis is still here

I cannot afford a PI or a GPS right now.

The affair is probably with his "buddy." What is her name? You might be able to find it here: http://safecaller.com/index.php

The "buddy" is either the OW or is her cover.


Can you afford the divorce you are headed for? Your marriage is not going to survive if you can't uncover this affair.

Can you find the OW's name and address doing a reverse look up on her #?

I can't imagine him taking the whole Cialis bottle and risking the OW seeing it. How hard would it be to take out 2 pills and slip in his wallet?

What did you mean here? Can you fire up the iphone4 and access his account? Did he ever use that phone?

If you have an iPhone that he has been using, do this: From the iPhone home screen, select Settings, then Privacy:Location Services:System Services(at the very bottom of the list):Frequent Locations. The history will tell you when this iPhone has repeatedly been taken, and precisely when.

This is a common wayward tactic - to have the OP's name under someone else's name. Have you independently verified who this number belongs to?

Even if you can verify the "buddy's" number - just so that you are aware, if your H is messaging someone who has iMessage, that would not appear on your phone bill. There are other work-arounds for someone in an affair to go undetected, such as using third party messaging apps, hidden email accounts and burner phones.

And it sounds to me like if your H was "offering" to prove to you there is no affair, that he already is thinking ahead and has covered his tracks.

You should be brainstorming ways to snoop further - checking his phone record is not nearly enough.