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And we can't help you make your marriage really and truly affair proof when your WW has had 8+ affairs unless you outline how she was able to conduct these affairs.

As painful as that would be, this is HOW we will be able to point out the holes to you.


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I asked Dr Harley about therapy for my serial cheating ex WH. He told me it doesn't help. For example, your WW may have low self-esteem. So what? There is NO cure for low self-esteem. Cheating probably has just made her self-esteem worse but she's an addict so she can't stop.

There are plenty of people who have childhood issues or self-esteem or any other kind of issue (myself included!) who do NOT cheat.

Conversely, there are people who do not have childhood/self-esteem issues who serial cheat.


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Another thing, Michael, you say you posted here five years ago, etc.

I don't see that you really understand the concepts. For example, a person who really understood a most basic MB principle such as the Love Bank and how affairs start, would understand that romantic love IS intoxicating for anyone - you don't have to be some kind of love addict for that to happen.

When you allow members of the OS to make love bank deposits, you WILL get "that" intoxifying feelings - that's why SO MANY people end up having affairs all of the time.

Serial cheaters are addicted to having affairs and chasing that feeling. They care more about getting EN met outside of marriage than they do about protecting their spouse.

You realize that Dr Harley has been doing this for a VERY long time (decades) right? And that there is no article here on this site talking about taking your serial cheating WW off to a sex and love addiction group as part of his plan to recover your marriage?


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You want me to list every unhealthy action she could take?
Yes.


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Originally Posted by Michael077
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What unhealthy actions on her part are still possible?

You want me to list every unhealthy action she could take? She has a phone, so she could text anyone she wants. Shall I take her phone away?

Ah, I see. So you aren't really doing the checklist.


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BTW, Dr. Harley and Joyce talked today on the radio show about how it's good for spouses to be addicted to each other.


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