I am trying to expose the OW via Facebook but when I have sent 2 PM to her friends it is not asking me to pay $1 as I've heard Melody Lane say in the other posts. Can someone tell me how to do it so it doesn't go into the PM spam folder?

Facebook has changed their policies and now the receiver is notified they have a message and they can opt to read it or not. You don't have to pay a $1.

So I will never know if they have chosen to open my message. Is this correct?

No, once they accept your message, it says "Joe blow has accepted your message."

Is there a reason why you are exposing now? Did your husband have another affair?

I very much regret not exposing the OW 5 years ago. I was scared.

The affair never died. I exposed it to my family, his family, our friends, his friends, but never exposed to the OW. I have been vigilant these past 5 years since the last D-day.
We both have retired now. We never spent nights apart. However, I recently found out she would use some "internet" number which hid her true identity.

He has told me these past 5 years it has only been an emotional affair and that he is willing to do a polygraph.

She is the president of the Local city chapter of a real estate group. That is how my husband met her--when he was looking for property to move his business in approx 2008.

So far I have exposed to her 10 fellow Board members. She was adopted. No parents or siblings. I wanted to expose to her closest friends on facebook. What do you think.

I would expose the affair to everyone, including all the folks you exposed to the first time around. You should also plan to move away. That is the reason the affair never died in all this time.


How far away does the OW live from you?

How did you find this out?

The OW lives one hour away from us.

I found out about the internet number because "my husband says he's tired of all the lying". He says he will truthfully answer all my questions. I asked them how they communicated. She used both an internet # with a different area code and she would also use a Skype #.

I NEVER exposed the OW to her friends or work colleagues. Yesterday, I exposed them to 10 board members.

There are still about 30 general members (she is the pres of this local club). Shall I expose to them. She also has 1000 Facebook friends, but no real family members as she is an "only adopted child".

Did you read my post about exposing to your friends and family?

How will you affair proof your marriage now? Are oyu familiar with Marriage Builders? Do you have the book Survivng an Affair? The checklist?

So he admitted this is a sexual affair? Saying he will "truthfully answer questions" is meaningless. Does he have an iphone?

Yes, he does have an iphone and for what its worth, he is willing to take a polygraph test.


Also, shall I send the exposure letter to the members of her local real estate organization where she is president. Shall I expose to her facebook friends (the ones that "like" her comments)? I've only exposed to the 10 board members using letter Dr Harley recommends

He says this was a sexual affair until 2011 when I first discovered it. Since that time, he says it is "on, off" contact. Says sometimes doesn't see her for 6 months sometimes. He says there has been no sex since 2011, but he has given her many gifts and has does mechanical repairs on her car.

He says he is profoundly sorry and is willing to take a polygraph whenever I schedule it.

I would book the test, but also you should get his phone right now and do this to see where he has been:


While you have his iphone, I would go through all his texts.


Which letter? And you should expose to everyone of her friends you can find.

Did you read my comments about exposing to BOTH your family and friends?

Which is another lie. He lied about it being sexual all along.


I would schedule it because he is lying. The fact that he is lying indicates this is not over and he is not serious.

He has a SEXUAL affair with this tramp. Just because they haven't recently had sex does not change that fact. He lied before and told you it was only "emotional." He is still lying.

File this for future reference, you need to do a much better job of snooping if you intend on staying married. I am really astonished he was able to get away with this for so long. You should have spyware on his phone, a GPS on his car and a VAR in his car.

Here is what you told us back on 06/27/12:

here

The "emotional affair" was bullsh** then and it is bullsh** now.

Yes. He admitted to having a sexual affair in the past. I will schedule a polygraph to find if this is true. I know his password on everything I know of. I check location services frequestly and her job and home are not listed as frequent locations. Today, we have installed a gps and a voice activated recorder.

Can you make suggestions for the questions on the polygraph.

I will finish sending letters:

July 18, 2016


Dear Friend of XXXXXX:

It grieves me to write this letter, but I believe all of her friends should know the kind of person she really is. XXXXX has had an affair with my husband, John, from 2008 until present day. She was showing my husband commercial real estate at the time they initiated their sexual affair. My husband and I have been married for 30 years, have 3 children and 5 grandchilden. We are trying to reconcile. I would appreciate it if you used your influence over XXXX to have her leave him alone so we can try to put our marriage together.

Sincerely,



XXXXXXX

I have already personally told his family, my family, our friends. The ones I will do tonight are her remaining business colleagues ( i have only sent out 10 letters) and facebook friends.

Bikerwife, who is "we"?

He should not know about the GPS or VAR. That would defeat the purpose. His word is NEVER to be trusted again.