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Re: Putting the peices back together
BrainHurts #2890596 11/28/16 11:24 PM
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I don't think she will be interested in doing that, at least not right now.
Re: Putting the peices back together
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Let us know when you hear back from Dr. Harely.

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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
Re: Putting the peices back together
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Punishing you will NEVER EVER achieve recovery for either of you, it will make a bad situation much worse and destroy your marriage. What your wife is doing is abuse, plain and simple, and you should not tolerate it. When you reward her destructive behavior, you encourage her to behave badly at the expense of your marriage.

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My last therapist said that in order to reach recovery I must be able to empathize with the pain that I have caused my wife.

Which is poor advice because empathy does not recover marriages. The therapist has no idea how to save a marriage. As you can see. In order to recover, you and your wife need to follow a PLAN that will recover your marriage. You haven't even begun.

Punishment is the antithesis of recovery.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Re: Putting the peices back together
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Nothing yet but I'll let you all know. Thanks!
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