ML - Yes, I have a form of software on his phone that is essentially spyware but its not labeled as such (yay for me working in IT security and encryption for decades) - and I have been actively snooping for 6 years, watching VERY closely (even checking inside our ac vents for hidden stuff - never came up with ANYTHING). NOTHING has come up in any form (even a forensic exam of his computer after BOTH separations) as far as pornography for over 5 years. Feb 2011 : May 2014 - we entered into counseling. It went well, however, during this process it came out that my H had been sexually abused by multiple members of his family. We knew his sister had been, and she ended her life because of the abuse she suffered. This made all the problems we had click. During this time, I also found that he had been chronically masturbating, and sneaking porn.

When are you going to ask him to leave?