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I have tried the company directory and know his title that's it.
Nothing on the internet.
I am not sharing on exposure.
As far as being divorced- I will need to get too specific on posts.
Pm me and I can share if you like.
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If he is divorced, I would still let his ex wife know of the affair. Since you found out about it initially in January (10 months ago) and it was going on before that, it is very likely the cause of his divorce. His ex wife should know that, if she doesn't already.
But just because he sold a home does not mean he is divorced. He could be separated because of the affair. In our state we can access divorce records online. Can you do that there? It can give you information about whether he is divorced, and if so, when that took place and his ex wife's name. You can use this to find more information about his contacts.
Is he a superior of your wife at work?
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No , don't have access to divorce I nfo up here on line.
OM is higher up than WW but different departments.
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You can go to intellius.com and enter his name and location, and buy a report. That should give you family info and info on whether he is divorced, I think. It's worth a shot. I think you can try white pages.com as well.
If that doesn't work, then the next step may be hiring a PI to get the goods on the OM.
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How do you know for sure that he does not have a FB account?
Have you created a dummy account and done some snooping around? People will sometimes not use their full or even real name on FB. You can check your WW's FB friends list - her work friends' friends lists - the company's FB page, if there is one, etc.
Snoop, snoop, snoop.
Leave no stone unturned, GWN.
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Pm me and I can share if you like. PM's are not allowed here.
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Very good advice, thank you.
WW is not on FB but I will try your other suggestions and see if I can find anything. If not have to get a PI
Sorry about the PMs I did not know.
Thanks
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Intellius does not work up here and no luck on white pages.
I have been snooping more on FB, nothing yet.
How critical is it to have OM' s side for exposure?
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Intellius does not work up here and no luck on white pages.
I have been snooping more on FB, nothing yet.
How critical is it to have OM' s side for exposure? GWN, It is critical. OM are pansies who are easily scared off, so it is essential you expose to his side. Also, he may be married for all you know. Keep looking, you will find it!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I will keep looking. Thank you for all the help.
Just want to expose asap.
What should I expect/ do after exposure?
Plan B?
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GWN,
A couple of things you posted make me think you are north of the 49th?
"up here"
Also you mention different departments -so I am thinking federal gov.
Am I correct?
If I am this does make tracking people down more difficult - if they have no social media presence.
Check out the ops investigation board for some tricks on finding people.
Also, does the OM use a work issued BB, or do you know if your WW contacts him on a personal phone? Try and get those #'s and search for those...
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Thanks Allan_Tweed
Yes on 1- No on 2
Don't know about personal or company phone-possibly might have both.
I will check out that board.
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Have you made any progress?
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Yes, company cell phone#
No luck on anything else so far.
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GWN, I'm sure it seems like we are all focusing on one small detail. However, the greatest chance you have of blowing up this affair and recovering your marriage is through exposure. Exposure should be done all at once, in one fell swoop. Exposing to the OM's side is as critical as exposing to your side. This is why we want you to get all the information you can so you can do a thorough exposure all at once.
Are you planning to expose to their workplace?
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Yes I plan workplace exposure.
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What about hiring a PI to get the information on the OM?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Ok,
Google his home # and his work# in both formats
###-###-####
and
(###)###-####
Also search facebook for those #'s
(replace the # with the numbers)
https://www.facebook.com/search/people/?q=%2B1#########
You could also do company search on google to check Linkd In:
-intitle:"profiles" -inurl:"dir/ " site:linkedin.com/in/ OR site:linkedin.com/pub/ "Current * CompanyNameHere * "
Replace CompanyNameHere with the name of the company
Keep digging.
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Allan_Tweed thanks
Got fb page.
Thanks
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