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She's going to be talking to one over the phone on her own. I can't stop her from doing that.

She went to three sessions with me to a marriage counselor and unfortunately she didn't want to go any longer because she said it was making it worse. I think it's because the Counselor was pro-marriage and wanted her to do things she didn't want to make an effort into. Plus, I think the counselor was getting inside of her wall and that led to tears and my wife doesn't want to get behind her wall to reveal the true stuff.

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Originally Posted by stillfightingfor
She's going to be talking to one over the phone on her own. I can't stop her from doing that.

She went to three sessions with me to a marriage counselor and unfortunately she didn't want to go any longer because she said it was making it worse. I think it's because the Counselor was pro-marriage and wanted her to do things she didn't want to make an effort into. Plus, I think the counselor was getting inside of her wall and that led to tears and my wife doesn't want to get behind her wall to reveal the true stuff.

I am sorry to hear all that, but you are correct, there is little you can do. Marriage counselors have an 84% failure rate and have no earthly idea how to save marriages. They have a higher personal divorce rate than the general population. Dr Harley figured that out back in the 70's and stopped traditional marriage counseling for that reason. [he felt he was ripping people off] That is how he came to create Marriage Builders. He based his concepts on tried and true practices based on couples that were still in love after 20 years. His program is very different than traditional marriage programs.


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Read this and listen to the radio clips. Beware of Bad Counselors


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