1 Kings 1:5-6 (NLT)
5 About that time David’s son Adonijah, whose mother was Haggith, began boasting, “I will make myself king.” So he provided himself with chariots and charioteers and recruited fifty men to run in front of him. 6 Now his father, King David, had never disciplined him at any time, even by asking, “Why are you doing that?” Adonijah had been born next after Absalom, and he was very handsome.
David had 19 sons and 1 daughter born to his wives. There were other children no listed which were was born to his concubines. The fourth son of David was Adonijah, who was born in the land of Hebron. Adonijah decided he was going to take over as King because David had become old. David had never participated much in the care of his children, in fact it says in the verses above he had never disciplined Adonijah at anytime. Even something as simple as asking, “why are you doing that?” had been overlooked. Like David it was said that Adonijah was a handsome man. And maybe too it was because of his outside appearance that David favored this son.
In Hebrews 5:7-9 it says, “While Jesus was here on earth, he offered prayers and pleadings, with a loud cry and tears, to the one who could rescue him from death. And God heard his prayers because of his deep reverence for God. Even though Jesus was God’s Son, he learned obedience from the things he suffered. In this way, God qualified him as a perfect High Priest, and he became the source of eternal salvation for all those who obey him.” Even Christ was subject to the obedience of His Father God. Yet in the verses above we find David being emotionally detached from Adonijah’s behavior. In fact David was so consumed with the affairs of the kingdom, battle plans, and his own adulterous affairs he had never spent the time properly training and disciplining his children. Because of David’s absence in dealing with his children they grew up with very dysfunctional lives. Children need their parents involved in their lives. They need nurturing, teaching correction and disciple. And they need to learn about God and His love for them through their parents. Pray for families to become healthy, Godly families. Pray for the members of your own family to understand God’s desire for their lives. Pray you would be attached and involved with your family, guiding them always in the principles of God.