Have you heard of the book Respect and Love? The main thing men need is respect from their wives. I'm sure your A has been a huge slap in the face to him.

That book recommends you write a letter to him letting him know what you respect about him. I'd recommend reading the book first and getting some input from BH's on this forum to see if that would be a good idea right now.

It's just a suggestion from my little world and not being a man, I may be off base. Any one else?

Great idea! I'll go get it today ... Any BHs have input on getting a letter like this? Should I post this separate from this thread?

Happily Recovered from Double Infidelity! \:\)
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DD2[due at X-mas]