So, it seems as though my H has told 1/2 the free world of my A and everyone wants to weigh in on what he should do. I've explained to him that others can only tell him what THEY would do ... but THEY are not HIM! B/c everyone is saying "I can't believe you're still living with her", "You're leaving her right?", and "D-I-V-O-R-C-E" he feels like that is his only option. IMO if he hadn't told everyone he talked to, he could make up his mind on his own and not feel obligated to "be a man" and "just leave". He said to me that he feels that he will be more of a man by leaving. What I wanted to say to him is that it takes more of a man to face his problems head on, rather than run away. I figured that would come out wrong though, so I bit my tongue. He questions whether leaving is the right decision ... shouldn't HE make that decision, instead of everyone else???

Happily Recovered from Double Infidelity! \:\)
DD1[about to turn 7]
DD2[due at X-mas]