You are much stronger than I ... I have let myself get sick (so to speak) on this roller coaster ride. I never had my A to end my M. I failed to protect myself from being vulnerable. I think his [alleged] RA is out of spite and to see what else is out there. This morning he asked me what I would do if I were in his shoes. I can't answer that, because I'm not him. I suggested that he take some time alone (meaning w/o the influence of his friends and other women) to really think this through. I reminded him that I am willing to do whatever it takes to save our M and that I am working hard to gain the tools that I need to prevent this from ever happening again. Someone said he may be having his [alleged] RA b/c he sees the relationship as over ... if he saw it as over, then he wouldn't still be questioning what to do, would he?