Ok ... I see your point. I was trying to establish boundaries for the separation and his cake-eating, but you are right ... these are demands. I have no right to tell him what he can/cannot do with DD - I should know better. I can't kick him out and I do not want to be separated, but he does. Why does he want to stay here when we have agreed that if HE wants to be separated HE will leave? I WANT to work on the M, he doesn't. What's the point in being separated if we are living together?

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