As far as still being married.... I place NO significance on the Gov't's role in M. If a person is cheated on and wishes to divorce... and they reside serparate from their STBX, I have no problem with them dating. Others here feel otherwise, but that is my take on things.

But I do think, as I have said many times here, that he is not acting properly given the circumstances of this situation.

Thank you for agreeing that he is acting inappropriately. As far as the M/separation comment - he has not officially moved out. He took a couple of things with him for the weekend, but almost everything is still here - including his beloved laptop. "Moved out" hardly describes our situation.