And what were your standards as a parent when you were screwing around with the OM ripping your family apart?

Sorry... but I have a child of my own and a foster child... I have full custody and I wouldn't need anyone...anyone... telling me that I was a bad aprent because I didn't take a call when SHE thought I should. And if you KNOW he is at an event... why are you having him bothered with calls while he is out with friends?

And while you consider it cheating... I would venture a guess that the vast majority of society would not consider a separated person from a partner that cheated on them to be cheating if they chose to date. That is my opinion and while I respect your right to yours, I do not agree with it.