Well, I went to the meeting ... and I def do NOT want a D!

But, I did get an interesting tidbit:
He cannot sue for D on the grounds of adultery here - well, he can, but it won't be granted. Because he continued to live in the home and remained married following the discovery of my A, its called "condonation" (meaning he legally condoned it and accepted it as part of our M). Not to mention, he had his own A and it would be pointless.

The attorney was actually really nice and encourages trying to work out the M for a period of time before deciding on D.

Hopefully we won't get to the point of ever filing for D. I don't want it ... I hate that we're going through all this. I want so badly for us to work things out. Now, I am even more encouraged to continue Plan A and exhibit patience!