One of the things that was important to me in our M was spending quality time alone together. So it hurts that he is choosing to work during that time instead. I decided to tell him this, but also asked if he would prefer that I cancel having my parents watch DD.

He told me that he felt I was "baiting" him by asking about canceling babysitting. He said that I needed to learn that he wouldn't baby me through all this. That I needed to stand up for what I wanted ...

So, I told him "Well, I'm standing up for what I want. And I want us to have time alone together on Monday." He said that he would finish up by early afternoon so that we could keep our plans ...

I'm so glad I decided to confront the issue head-on instead of standing back and assuming our plans would be canceled.

Last edited by time_for_change; 05/23/07 07:13 PM.